You and Jeff are correct. I goofed on that one in using the wrong pronoun, and I owe him an apology. Instead of
their, I should have used the impersonal possessive
its before the gerund, as in "its being the only one." However, I don't believe Jeff's "thier" exists
nick - what you're failing to grasp here is that perfect grammar and capitalisation may have their place in formal writing but are an unnecessary hinderance to productiveity in internet forums. not everyone has all day to sit around and proof read their posts. i agree that some form of punctuation is useful but, personally, i consider capitalisation completely devoid of purpose...
That is virtually word-for-word the response my wife and I got from my son's 9th-grade teacher in a Parent/Teacher meeting when we questioned how he could have received an A for an essay containing several basic errors. Her actual words, as I remember, were: "We don't fret about trivial errors so long as the meaning is clear. We don't want to inhibit their creativity with minutae."
When I asked whether an architect should ignore trivia such as material strengths, soil compressibility and wind forces, because they would "inhibit his creativity," she went on to the next subject. That was 26 years ago, but from what I hear things have only got(ten) worse since.
I don't buy it. Writing without the use of capitalization, and ignoring most punctuation, is lazy; it is like going out unshaven and rationalizing it by saying shaving serves no purpose because it just grows back again and I only shave when going to a formal occasion. For example, here is a sentence using capitals:
"After the other riders dismounted, I helped my Uncle Jack off." Now try it in your no-capitals style. I don't think you would consider them "completely devoid of purpose"!
Commas (and other punctuation marks) are not unimportant formalities, they are essential for clarity. Missing commas, or their incorrect placement, can cause either ambiguity or a total misapprehension of the intended meaning. Examples:
Missing commas: Some years ago the Republican Party platform statement contained this:
We oppose excessive taxes that slow economic growth. Several literate people pointed out that this could be taken to mean that Republicans only oppose excessive taxes that slow economic growth; other excessive taxes are OK. The statement was then changed by the insertion of a tiny [unimportant?] comma after the word taxes, the sentence now imparting the intended meaning: All excessive taxes slow economic growth.
Incorrect or redundant placement: What is ambiguous about the following? "My friend, Jim, is an accomplished pianist"? It could mean that Jim is my only friend. It
would be a correct use in this context: "My mother, June, is an accomplished pianist," as I only have one mother.
See how removing the two commas make everything clear: "My friend Jim is an accomplished pianist."
Certainly, one should avoid esoteric words that are virtually never used in ordinary speech, but the use of capitalization and punctuation is nothing to do with "formal" writing; they are are as essential as the correct clearance in a bearing. Pooh-poohing them is usually an excuse used by people who were either never taught, and/or are too damned lazy to learn, the proper use of our language. That is the same excuse used by those who defend street jive by calling it Black English, or Ebonics. [Decline the verb "to be" in Ebonics: "I be, you be, he be, she be, we be, they be."]
The root cause can be exemplified by a note my son brought home from school, seeking our permission for his going on a field trip: "The students will learn alot and we will try to make it as fun as possible." Two pieces of ignorant illiteracy in one sentence (there is no such word as
alot, and
as is an adverb; it cannot be used to modify the noun
fun). And these are the people in whose hands we place the future citizens of the country. I was of a mind to send it back with correction in red ink, and "careless; see me!" However, my wife talked me out of it.